At workshops I frequently ask people if they would like to be free of all pain, both; emotional and physical. However, I tell those who sign up for what they think will be a gift to take my phone number with them so when they experience the problems associated with feeling no pain they can call and cancel the supposed gift Mondays we have more heart attacks, suicides, strokes and illnesses. Perhaps if we responded to our feelings and changed our lives or attitudes Mondays would not threaten our health. I experience pain but I do not suffer. To me pain is a necessity, if I am going to define myself and my life, but suffering is an option When you use your pain to become a more complete human being. the what previously felt like a curse turns into a blessing