Abstract: Written by a survivor of extensive childhood rape who is studying to become a counselor herself, this article gives therapists deep insights into the mechanics of dissociation and how to work with these trauma survivors for healing. Hiding strategies are discussed, such as putting on a smile to try to make people think everything is OK. Clues to recognizing survivors are offered, including physical signs, non-verbal body language, the look in their eyes, and how clients use their time. Guidelines follow for building safety into the therapeutic process, including phrases to use and body postures which will help to gain the clients trust. The author addresses the importance of both therapist and client developing emotional intelligence.